This year I’ve been on a chock full of vacations and mini-vacations that I’ve stopped counting and one thing that remains constant is the vacation shaming. What is vacation shaming? I’m glad you asked! If you’ve heard any of the following phrases from someone at work, a friend or someone at the gym, you’ve been vacation shamed.
- ‘You’re going on vacation, again”!”
- “Didn’t you just come back off of vacation?”
- “It feels like you’re always going on a vacation.”
- “You’re lucky that you can afford to take any time off.”
- “I love my job too much to take a day off.”
- “I’d have too much work when I get back if I take vacation.”
- “So, who’s going to do your work when you’re gone.”
- “Lucky you.”
That my friends is what you call vacation shaming! The judging and the constant need to justify your need or desire to take time off. Hey, don’t feel bad, even President Obama gets vacation shamed!
This unfortunate act is usually done by someone that hasn’t taken a vacation in years and doesn’t understand how awesome it is to unplug and get out of town! Unfortunately, vacation shaming usually occurs too often in the workplace, where many employees are afraid of actually taking time off. The little workaholic who could. Many people feel that delaying or simply skipping a vacation makes them look like exemplary employees and gives them a leg up on a promotion or a raise. It usually doesn’t, but it does lead to major frustration, stress and heath problems.
So, how do we deal with the little guilt trippers? The next time you are shamed for choosing your happiness and health over work, here’s how you should respond.
- Own It: Make no apologies for taking your leave that is entitled to you . Never let anyone guilt trip you out of having a damn good life. “Yes, yes I am going on vacation again!” You deserve it.
- Explain The Benefits Of Vacation: Tell them how refreshing time off is; how vacation led to you having a more positive attitude at work. Explain the health benefits of time away.
- Encourage Them To Take A Vacation: Some people are really like children; they must be led. Throw some vacation ideas out for them. Email them a few scenic pictures from your last getaway. Send them that bomb travel deal you found but passed up.
If you’re entitled to it, take it! The benefits of time off far outweigh the negatives. Be an example, you just might be the one to pull someone out of that vacation rut!
Have you ever been vacation shamed? How did you handle it?